Thursday, May 31, 2012

Am i wired to effect change in another?

No human on the face of the planet is wired or saddled with the responsibility of effecting change in another but humans are wired to be an example or mirror. Also, every human is saddled with the responsibility of being responsible individuals for themselves and their domain.  Anyone who is irresponsible dishonors him/herself. If someone is in a relationship with another who is irresponsible, nothing they can do to change the irresponsible one. If the irresponsible individual is not willing and ready to embrace change, change cannot be forced on them by another. Quit being the savior of an irresponsible fellow because you are not. On my quest for success, I will not set out to change anyone but will be fully abreast of the fact that all humans have a right to live well and right or completely irresponsible until they are frustrated and ready to embrace change, it is only then and only then can change take place. 
Am I wired to effect change on another?
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Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Develop the habit of open communication!

"He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not asks remains a fool forever" ~ Chinese Proverb.
Assumption is the sure way to  the destruction of a good relationship. What does it cost to just ask for clarification? In a father to daughter, wife to husband, brother to sister, fiancĂ© to fiancĂ©e and boss to employee relationship, there should have been some degree of trust developed overtime, and this level of trust that has been built cannot be denied all of a sudden over a flimsy baseless matter. If the so-called matter has a base, the next question would be, "has the truth been tested?" Do not be afraid to ask questions to clarify distortion or to challenge a lie. Everyone should be able to develop a pattern of open communication where issues are resolved without delay after the facts or forever remain bitter. On my quest for success, i will develop the habit of open communication with everyone by resolving issues based on facts the moment they are birthed.
Develop the habit of open communication!
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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Be specific about forgiveness!

When blunders are committed by humans against another and it accumulates in the heart of the one who is hurt, this can be likened to a bomb waiting to explode; this person should be resisted by all means. When errors are forgiven specifically and not generally, it is like medicine to the sick. The human body is not built to harbor indefinite bitterness or ruthlessness, 'cos this can be transformed to a miniature disease that will become a mystery even to a professional doctor. When the one who erred is asking for forgiveness, the one who is granting forgiveness should be able to ask in return, "forgiveness from what?" by so doing both parties are aware of the "sin" committed, so forgiveness can take its full cause. There is nothing like general error or general forgiveness. On my quest for success, If I hurt anyone, I will ask their forgiveness on specifics by recounting the blunder committed, on another hand, if anyone err against me and require forgiveness, I will grant it specific to the blunder committed and not in general terms. 
Be specific about forgiveness!
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Monday, May 28, 2012

Is innocence long gone?

Some few years back people could visit friends, sit just anywhere with anybody and just laugh and have a good time without suspicion of any kind. A man can pick up a lady on the streets and take her to her destination without a gift in return. People can see two opposite sex in a car in motion and don't care if the lady is their wife or girlfriend. Everybody just minded their businesses and focused on a higher matter, progress. Nowadays, if a lady stands at a bus-stop conversing with a male friend, there is nose raising and eyes popping from cars or persons at the sidewalk wanting to know something. Where is the innocence we once shared? Where is the innocence that cared enough to help a stranger? Wake up people! Don't allow the happenings of today darken your heart. Take upon you innocence that knows no evil  or suspicion but do this with wisdom. On my quest for success, I will deal wisely with people and at the same time not forget to take upon me innocence that knows no evil nor suspicion except in a situation where trust given is broken.
Is innocence long gone?
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Sunday, May 27, 2012

Are you looking for spotlight?

There is a popular legend that says, 'charity begins at home" ~ Sir Thomas Browne. This quote is so true. Some people like to be famous for good works in public but are a "monster of sadness and shame" in their own home. Why would everybody know you as a "Goodman", "Giver" outside, except in your home? Seek to help your family in one form or another. Everything doesn't necessarily have to be centered on money and whatever act of kindness one is pursuing or want to be known for should begin at their home because if members of a family cannot vouch for your, "act of kindness" you are in a world of fantasy and fame that will only go so far. On my quest for success, I will first show act of kindness to my loved ones and then extend same to the world otherwise I am a hypocrite looking for spotlight that won't last anyway.
 
Are you looking for spotlight?
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Saturday, May 26, 2012

Are you walking a tight rope?

Walking a tight rope means being at crossroads on what to do, like not knowing what to study in college/university. You may want to study medicine because most of your friends are in that field, at the same time you want to study accounting because your dad is an accountant. You need not walk a tight rope on this. The question you should ask yourself is, "what do i enjoy doing and crave to do always" There!...that's your answer.  When you see electronics does your heart leap for joy and wonder how it works? Study computer science or electrical electronics! Do you wonder how databases store data? Study system analysis and design! You can make a decision right away without walking a tight rope. On my quest for success, I will be wise enough to know that whatever gives me joy when i indulge in it is my passion, and whatever i have passion for i will be successful at. And so, i will follow my passion.
Are you walking a tight rope?
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Friday, May 25, 2012

Do you give people the benefit of the doubt?

These are times when families reach out to loved ones and guide them through life and in the time of difficulty. There are also times when loved ones are judged by their family even at the slightest misstep. These individuals being reached out to sometimes take for granted the care and love shown them and they mistake it for either being "over protective" or exhibiting "paranoia". Yes! Everyone wants their loved ones safe while on the streets but when these ones being protected escape from our grip should we let them go or chase after them? It is important to chase after them with words, by not relenting in giving advice, but it is also important to give them the benefit of the doubt, by so doing, you give them room to make their own mistakes and learn from them--although some mistakes can be costly, it is fine as well. On my quest for success, i will be abreast with the fact that, there is nothing wrong with giving people especially loved ones the benefit of the doubt so they can make their own mistakes, learn from it and move on as well.
Do you give people the benefit of the doubt?
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Thursday, May 24, 2012

What is the key to peaceful living?

Peaceful living emanates from genuine understanding & consideration of others ~ Ochuko.
Life is not complicated as most people think. Life is only complicated to those who have refused to embrace understanding and consideration of other people. Why do people suffer? People suffer because they have refused to obey the simple laws of life such as, "Treat others as you would have them treat you." Their operation mode is, "me first or no other". When people have learned to give consideration and understanding to other people in any situation, they will be elevated in no distant time and in-turn live peacefully with great satisfaction. On my quest for success, I will learn to "think people" by considering them based on understanding the fact that they come first in everything before me.   
What is the key to peaceful living?
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Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Are you a chief superintendent?

There are characteristics some persons may display that may make people come to wrong conclusions about their personality. Inappropriate dressing, talking too much in public, not comporting oneself with dignity in public etc. are some characteristics people may display that give them away quickly. In spite of these ugly characteristics, no one is made a "chief superintendent" over such persons. They have a right to do anything with their lives at least in the midst of humans. What happened to freedom of movement, speech, dressing and so on and forth? If you have a friend, sister, niece or a brother whom you think needs help, please give advice in an "acceptable form". For "freedom" sake one is allowed to scrutinize every dick and harry that comes across their path. On my quest for success, while i try to help some individuals straighten up in a respectful manner, i will also keep in mind that i am not placed a "chief superintendent" over them.   
Are you a chief superintendent?
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Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Do humans have differing comfort levels?

There is enough room at the top for everyone but not everyone will make it to the top because of reasons best known to them. Everyone definitely have a level of comfort and an idea of what they will become, but then again, they limit themselves.  One may dream of having a 9-5 job, a used car, a two (2) bedroom apartment, a family and be just fine if they can achieve this. Another may dream of having their own business, a new luxury car, a house or mansion and will be just fine. Whatever your dream is, that is your comfort level. Never make mockery of another because of the level they are, they may have chosen to live that way. On my quest for success, I will be armed with the truth that comfort level differ, that some people can handle luxury to its fullest, while others may not yet others are still on their way to luxurious living. Finally, i will learn to respect everyman at their comfort level.   
Do humans have differing comfort levels?
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Monday, May 21, 2012

Are you confident in yourself?

Security, trust and fear are in one family. If one is insecure, it means not being able to trust someone and having fear of the unknown. If one has trust in someone, it means you are secured in them and you do not fear the unknown. Why indulge in tracking the conversation of your friends, boss, business associates, co-worker or significant other? This move portrays lack of confidence, and can only point to one direction; incompetence. Being oneself and doing the right thing and at the right time regardless of what people around may say, portrays confidence in one's ability and this yields positive outcome, otherwise negative outcome that can be smelt from a mile away. On my quest for success, I will be confident in my ability and display same in whatever i indulge in, this in turn will reveal how secured i am, and being secured depicts strength, courage, and fearlessness.   
Are you confident in yourself?
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Sunday, May 20, 2012

Do you pull stunts?

There are stunts that are pulled that have an adverse effect on others and there are some pulled that put smiles on faces. The person who is pulling negative stunts will only go so far because their image will always be tainted when they are done, and they create more enemies than friends. An example; a co-worker confided in me three (3) years ago about how he deflated an accountants tire in the office when he refused to reimburse him for personal funds spend on a company trip. Now, I got winds of my friend's promotion due in days, i move quickly to tell the accountant of what had happened, this was forwarded and the promotion was halted. What do i gain pulling this stunt? Will i get that promotion? On my quest for success, I will be content and grateful for where I am, and also be able to keep words told me in confidence, unless i know that person poses a threat to a life.    
 
Do you pull stunts?
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Saturday, May 19, 2012

How do you draw conclusion?

Beauty, intelligence and distastefulness are inherent in everyone on the face of the earth; it is up to us to allow our inner beauty rise above all. For some, these can be heard, for others it can be seen and yet for many more it can be felt when tapped. No human being is ugly, blank or incapable of learning. Every human being  has a beautiful side and ugly side to their personality. Life is all about diversity. The sooner everyone accept this fact the better we will all be. Someone tagged "pretty" may have a very nasty inside that when they open their mouth, someone gets wounded badly emotionally. In the same vein someone tagged "ugly" may have a beautiful inside that when they open their mouth someone gets healed emotionally. Reach inside someone and get the best out, instead of looking for the evil in them. On my quest for success, I will not be moved by someone's appearance or being critical about anyone based on what someone else said about them but will make my own judgment after meeting them in person severally.   
How do you draw conclusion?
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Friday, May 18, 2012

Is color only skin deep?

The ills in society are cause by people not color; I can bet on that with a trillion box. If one travel around each continent, I bet they will find that people are the same in attitude. It does not matter the skin color; red, white, black, brown, cream etc. If you take off the skin of a human you will be left with, a heart, a brain, blood and bones. There is no one country in a continent that is 100% free of theft, harassment, killing, rape, child abuse, fraud, irresponsible leaders and so on and forth. Some countries are popularly known for one major problem and that is how the world views them. On my quest for success, I will not be deceived by the color of the human skin but will look past skin color when dealing with humans in any part of the world 'cos color is only skin deep.  
Is color only skin deep?
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Thursday, May 17, 2012

Free yourself from your prison!

Oh heavens! If minds are opened, i can only imagine pictures that will be seen. Our minds work in accordance with how we have trained it over time. If you've trained your mind to forgive humans when they err, you find that overtime you want to deal with any human issues and get over it immediately; otherwise, you may have people in shackles locked up in your prison. Free the wicked, unkind, stupid, foolish, senseless, unreasonable etc. so you will be free because the more people are locked up in your prison the more you are imprisoned, and may never have beautiful moments, which in-turn may lead to sickness, and ultimately death. On my quest for success, I will deliberately overlook some wrongs, and the ones i cannot overlook i confront head-on in a peaceful manner, so I may have peace.  
Free yourself from your prison!
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Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Is there not a cause?

Irritation about the status quo that immediately demands answer with authority coupled with confidence signifies solution is nearby ~ Ochuko. 
Everyday people seek solution to their deepest need, that's why there is constant human movement on roads, sea and in the air. These solution sought could be for a loved one sick or dying, a business winding up, someone looking for daily bread, someone who's marriage is failing etc. For those who are wondering what next in the chapter of their lives and don't know what to do, the question is;  is there not a cause? Until a cause for change naturally swells inside of you, you may not have the courage or will power to start a quest for success. On my quest for success, I will not be complacent and satisfied with where I am. If i am satisfied with where I am, then, it's time to help someone get to that place, as there is always something or someone to fight for in this life.  
Is there not a cause?
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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Do you join in the act?

Silence at ills spoken against another who is absent, depicts support ~ Ochuko
Sometimes I stand in awe of why some people indulge in talking ill of others or even their friends but themselves. Saying awful things about someone at their back or in front of them is tantamount to murder.  Worse off, is someone who tends to disagree with the act but kept silent for fear of being removed from the circle. I like to call this an accomplice to character assassination and whoever keeps silent is guilty of the same.  My hunch is, you don't want to be called an assassin, so why indulge or remain silent in this idiotic act? On my quest for success, it does matter that I do not speak ill of anyone especially at their absence, learn to mind my business and to stop someone before they begin talking ill of another because i do not want to be grouped as an unwise fellow.  
Do you join in the act?
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Monday, May 14, 2012

Do you agree?

Nature is beautiful, even so all men and all that dwell therein. Mothers are much more beautiful than them all because without them the earth cannot be populated. Mothers carry the weight of pregnancy, the pain of child birth, they bear the agony of a stubborn child and they also bask in pride in the success of a focused child. Mothers most especially nurture and they do this will love regardless of the many hurt caused by all that exist through them. On my quest for success, I will by no means disrespect any human and much more not disrespect a woman regardless of the hurt they may cause sometimes because of too much weight they are saddled with either at home from the one they love, on the streets, at work etc. I have come to realize they are worth having around, and that when they are treated right or bad they tend to double same and give it to the author of that very situation. Treat all women with respect always. Much love to all you mothers!


Do you agree!
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Sunday, May 13, 2012

Does it matter to you?

Good memories can be formed from everyday happenings in life. Why will someone sit and just hate everything around them? Why will someone sit and just frown or sigh? Every response in life stems from a perceived or corresponding action. If two chickens or squirrels are in a scuffle and children cluster around watching and laughing, why not join in the laughter instead of driving the children in anger. What we see and how we interpret makes the difference and this can in turn set the flow of events for the day either positively or negatively. On my quest for success, it does matter that I am not among those spreading mystery.  I will intentionally conjure my own "good" interpretation of happenings around by choosing to see fun were none supposedly existed.  
Does it matter to you?
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Saturday, May 12, 2012

Is it up to you?

Contrary to the belief of many, life is not responsible for where we are neither are our parents. It is up to us to move constantly and get to the place we have always dreamed of or to become that we have always dreamed regardless of pace. Consider the millipede; ever slow but relentlessly moves to its destination or consider the birds of the air always ready to fly regardless of the weather condition. On my quest for success, I will be fully aware that it is up to me to make progress in whatever endeavor I so desire and that nothing can stop me from moving. I will keep moving and achieving my dream in bits, regardless of the speed/pace at which I realize them. 
Is it up to you?
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Friday, May 11, 2012

Have you stopped moving?

The moment one stops moving/excited about life, one starts dying ~ Ochuko.
Life is all about movement. The sun, moon, bacteria, animal, rivers, ocean and so on and forth are in constant motion that will NEVER CEASE. The human body is not left out, the head and all other body parts grow at the same pace and no one part is left behind, otherwise someone needs to see a doctor. Our minds, desires run; even when we are on a track and field race, our whole body runs too.  On my quest for success, I will be armed with the fact that I cannot begin an endeavor and expect success when my core being is not immersed in it. I cannot run and win with my legs alone; I need my whole body to be completely involved in a race to achieve a win. 
Have you stopped moving?
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Thursday, May 10, 2012

Simplify your approach!

If I desire success in any endeavor, first question I should ask myself is; do I have a goal? If i have a goal, next question will be; how do i get there? That is where A PLAN comes in. If I am truly determined to get to a set mark, I should be able to have a roadmap on how to get there. There are several options i may put forward that may be unclear or unrealistic which may call for reconsideration. While trying to reconsider my approach options, I may want to simplify them too. Why would i want to achieve success in an endeavor and still be hard on myself? On my quest for success, I will choose the simplest way of getting to my desired goal instead of the hard and unrealistic way because choosing the hard and unrealistic way may make me run into dead ends which was not initially envisioned.  
Simplify your approach!
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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Put that idea to work!

What are you thinking? What is on your mind? If it is garbage or a bad idea that will take you backward like stealing or committing fraud and so on and forth, spew it quickly, otherwise, it festers and grows to a monster and soon enough you will DO IT. Doing it may cost you the rest of your life; probably killed or in jail/prison. If you are thinking of a good idea that will propel you forward, nurse it! Never let a good idea or a dream die. Keep it alive and let it inspire you to try to seeing it come to fruition.  On my quest for success, I will hold tight to every good idea and dream that comes to me by writing them down, getting excited about them, and taking deliberate steps to accomplishing same, else they die. 
Put that idea to work!
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Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Are you grounded?

A leader in the eyes of many have answers to the questions asked, otherwise they study and come up with an answer. A leader is assumed grounded in character and is an example to many. If a leader is not grounded in character, it shows in their words and action because these speak the loudest. On my quest for success, I will be sure to do my homework before assuming responsibility because in assuming responsibility I have indirectly pledged to be an example to the society. If i am not grounded in character, it will definitely show up in my words and action and as a half-baked leader I cannot lead an examplary life. 
Are you grounded?
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Monday, May 7, 2012

Do you test your assumptions?

A lot of people in the world today who are not doing okay in several ways, at some point have had assumptions  that were never tested. They still tag whatever assumption they tied around an idea, "not workable". They just simply relent in their effort based on those assumptions that were never tested. How can I come up with an idea to move forward in my career and give up at just the thought that it may never work, when I have not done anything to put it to work? On my quest for success, I will never kill my dream before they are birthed. I will test whatever idea that comes to mind by putting my first foot forward regardless of any negative assumption that may sprout alongside my  success idea. I will only tag an assumption "not workable" if and only if i have tested it.
Do you test your assumptions?
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Sunday, May 6, 2012

Does it purify your character?

In every area of life, there is always a challenge. There is no one job, business deal or adventure that does not come with a challenge. There is always going to be a hurdle to jump over. Challenges will never cease to appear. The only good news is, these challenges come to purify ones character, so much so that, when one surmounts the first, the next becomes easier to surmount.  On my quest for success, I will be wise enough to know that there will never be a day when challenges will cease, I rather brace up and  be ready to conquer every challenge in any endeavor.
Does it purify your character?
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Saturday, May 5, 2012

Will you fly that airplane?

If you don't start that airplane and fly it, someone else will ~ Ochuko.
Our lives as humans can be compared to that of an airplane. Once built, started and moved to the runway, it is ready to fly after one last look at the checklist. We were born and raised to a certain extent by parents, thereafter our lives are in our hands to move it to the next level and afterwards fly it to any where we so desire. On my quest for success, I am definitely aware; I am the emancipator, originator and controller of my life. If I do not start me on the road to success and take me to places i have been dreaming about, someoneelse will definitely achieve those same dreams and much more under my watch. Fly that airplane now!
Will you fly that airplane?
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Friday, May 4, 2012

Are you looking for a party?

Being secured in oneself is the beginning point to starting a party ~ Ochuko.
Some people start parties, some look for the party and others analyze the party. Some persons are insecure or not confident in who they are and what they can do or not do, and so you find them looking to be accepted in a circle of friends. They try hard to join themselves to others thinking they may not be accepted; why look for the party, start the party! If no-one shows up, be cool. On my quest for success instead of looking for a party to join myself to, I rather start the party and allow people to find my party by  being secured in whom I am and showing confidence in what I can do and not do; that's how the party gets started.
Are you looking for a party?
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Thursday, May 3, 2012

Do you believe in this phrase?

"Que Sera, Sera" which means "Whatever will be, will be" ~ Jay Livingston. 
It is a popular phrase used by so many who think wealth can come on anyone regardless of what they do or not do. I would say, the meaning attached to this phrase is either correct or incorrect based on some facts. Fact 1: If I sit all day at home and make believe that wealth will someday come to me-that is a huge fallacy. Fact 2: If I have done all within my control to be successful and there still exist hurdles, then I have to re-strategize jump those hurdles to get to my destination, else i get zero success. Finally, on my quest for success, I will be armed with the truth that, when i do nothing to make progress in life in any area I so desire; que sera, sera - I will reap whatever i have sown.
Do you believe in this phrase?
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Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Why do you plan for tomorrow?

This phrase is often used at departure points, "I'll see you tomorrow." Has the thought ever crossed a person's mind that they may not see the next day? No! I guess. I just bid a friend goodbye with a nice phrase, said without rehearsal. What on earth gives me the assurance i am really going to see another day? It actually reflects unwavering hope and faith in tomorrow's ability to keep me alive without consideration of the possibility of death. On my quest for success, I will translate this very hope and faith to an unwavering assurance that i can make it by just taking the first step in my list of to-do's and hope for success without shrinking in fear.
Why do you plan for tomorrw?
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Tuesday, May 1, 2012

What will you do?

Have you ever thought of coveting the way of the earth? The earth is not moved, distracted or feel left alone by the numerous activities in and around it; it keeps rotating regardless. What will you do in the face of adversity? Will you still clamor for success in spite of numerous activities that are not favorable or will you give up because you failed several times? What will you do if your friends dessert you? On my quest for success, I will keep my cool in times of difficulty by indulging in constructive thinking that will propel me forward and I will keep pressing on even when the sun goes down.
What will you do?
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