Thank you for sticking with me this past one year of constant blogging. This is where I draw the drap on my daily blog. Do please enjoy reading these blogs day after day, and year after year until you become a better YOU.
Stay strong, well and blessed.
Happy Holidays!
Have you ever been in need? Or have you ever been homeless? Or without food or cloths? If the answer is yes, you know what to do this season. If the answer is no, reach out to someone who is needy, because it is a painful state for one to be in.
Locate somebody; the homeless, a disadvantaged single mum, a disadvantaged single dad, the poor, the lonely, one who repeats cloths and shoes day in and day out etc.
There is someone somewhere around you that needs a helping hand this season; reach out, be a blessing.
Have yourself a beautiful celebration as you make this season a giving galore!
I have learned over the years that I do not have to pay injustice for injustice; bad for bad; evil for evil; or have a revengeful attitude.
I have come to the conclusion that if I was ill-treated and I decided to counter ill-treatment with revenge, I am no different than the one who ill-treated me.
In other words, if someone was mean to you, either you ignore the act and slowly move away or just smile with the mind that they may be going through stress or are completely stupid entirely; better still, assume they are at a particular low level that you CANNOT succumb to (fight back). This puts you at a higher level or pedestal than they.
Deliberately refuse to assume a revengeful position at any given time; there are a billion beautiful things out there to occupy the mind with.
If you give people the opportunity to box you into a revengeful corner, you will truly be boxed into that ugly position for life. ~ Ochuko A.
A revengeful personality is a ugly sight to behold; run far from such and be free. The best way is to act like you never saw the act they put up at anytime. It is definitely not easy to ignore a mean act neither is it easy to ignore the perpetrator, but ignoring wicked or mean acts can be practiced and finally adopted over time.
Remember, the goal is not to ignore the person; the goal is to ignore the acts that are intentionally meant to either make you snap or to ridicule you.
I bet the person trying to hurt you would be so surprised you did not snap, and they will stop, and eventually apologize, especially if they have tried to hurt you several times without success. Get this magic, it works!
You can do anything to be successful; you can actually achieve anything you set your heart to do, but in all you do, do not defraud, swindle or deceive in the name of success. Defrauding or swindling someone else in the name of success is the quickest and surest way to riches and a downward spiral thereafter. ~ Ochuko A.
It is easy to get lured into a deep pit or dish when the heart is not guarded. Your world is your heart. Your heart is your life. Protect your heart with all malice because any opening left unattended is a loophole for some negative insights (bad influence) to gain entrance.
Don’t ever let anybody tell you that whatever you are doing to get to your desired end is not working or that it is cul-de-sac (Impossibility). If they present a proposal on the quickest way to riches, thank them for their offer or proposal, and say, "I'm fine".
Truth is, before long, if you keep your gaze on the mark you have placed before you, you will surely get to that desired destination.
As long as you keep working towards that focus or goal, you will get it right and hit the mark. ~ Ochuko A.
If you are struggling right now, it does not mean you will struggle forever. Don’t you remember that times and seasons don’t cease. There is always, winter, summer, fall, spring or raining and dry seasons.
So, never say, “I am tired”, “I am fed up”. If you must cry sometimes, please cry, there is nothing wrong with crying - it is okay - but, when you say those words, you are literally quitting on you. If a mother cannot quit on her suckling child who she must feed to keep alive or survive, why should you quit on the beautiful and hardworking you.
You can and definitely will get to your desired end. Do not despise whatever you are doing for a living right now, ‘cos the end will surely and definitely justify the means; you will always get to your desired destination if you only persevere in the hard times, and persist in doing well, you will get it right (hitting the mark).
See the people and the world with a new set of binocular.
The purpose of a standard binocular is for viewing real beautiful and ugly scenes in sight, and as close and amplified as they can possibly be. You do not want to see the world and people that way.
I propose you do not view the world the way a binocular would because you would be heavily disappointed, and at the same time, you would be filled with hatred and disdain for people.
Yes, some people can be dangerous, wicked, evil, etc. Yet, some people are kind, merciful, gracious and good. I bet you do not want to constantly see the first set of people, else you maybe fed-up with life and think you had enough and then contemplate suicide.
You may want to consider the other side of people and this world; the existence of good, merciful, kind and gracious people. They are alive and have not gone extinct.
See with a different set of eyes, have a different understanding and thought of the world you live in; the quicker you do this the better for you.
“One’s behavior, attitude or character does not get better by chance, it gets better by change with the right influence.” ~ Ochuko A.
Never underestimate the power of influence, commitment and dedication; it takes you from one level of success to another till you get to your expected end.
Moving with the right circles is key and one right step to success. The right circles or crowd may just be one key person; and that can change your life forever.
Keep moving with the right crowd, it will pay you in the long run. Would you?
Victory or success never comes to those who shy away from challenges or the storms of life, but success comes to those who endure and fight their way through.
On your quest for success, brace-up and be courageous because the winds and the storms of life will definitely show-up at the scene, but always remember that after the storm, comes sunshine.
On your quest for success, your attitude to risk is a key success differentiator. You should not shy away from taking risk because regardless of whether or not you take risk, it is inherent in life.
You should definitely evaluate, take, and manage risk, because the greatest opportunities lie therein. Correct?
“Heaven on earth” is a choice you must make, not a place you must find. ~ Wayne Dyer
Heaven on earth can be likened to “bed of roses.” A popular idiom asserts, “As you lay your bed, so you must lie on it.
When one does things without thinking about how these same things will pile up to form their life, is regarded as foolishness, and it can be likened to making your bed with thongs. And, you know that when one sleeps on a bed full of thongs it will definitely hurt; but, it does not have to be like this.
Life becomes “bed of roses” for those who deliberately seek out “the roses” in the rain and in the storm, not minding if they will be beaten by the rain or swept by the storm (being abandoned by friends or going through struggles) but keep looking and picking whatever is found till they get enough roses (success achieved in bits till it leads to a huge break)to drop on the bed of life.
Somebody should tell us right at the start of our lives that we are dying. Then, we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! ~ Michael Landon
Somebody does not necessarily have to tell you that you are dying in other for you to live the life the way you are supposed to.
Whatever you think you can accomplish, go ahead and get it done; with this attitude, success possibilities are endless.
On your quest for success, there should be no wall or impediment to your search, if there is, you will definitely surmount because of the right attitude. Additionally, be rest assured you can get to any place and achieve anything you so desire; nothing can possibly stop you, if you believe nothing can.
Commander-in-Chiefs' do very good work on the nation or country they govern. They do not allow aliens invade and take over their own.
Do likewise. You are in charge of your life and how it turns out. Do a good job in governing and caring for it. Stir your entire life the right direction.
If it seem hard, do not be shy to seek help or guidance immediately from your mentor or persons you greatly adore, whose lives are worth emulating.
“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence. When mindfulness embraces those we love they will bloom like flowers.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
If people who err are given another chance, they will do better.
We should all learn to give people another chance instead of condemning, writing them off or giving-up on them.
Being there for these people who are tagged “dumb” is the best gift which can yield positive result, and which will in-turn cause them to blossom.
Listen earnestly to anything your children want to tell you, no matter what. If you don’t listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big because to them all of it has always been big stuff. ~ Catherine M. Wallace
Listen! Listen!! Listen!!! Pay good attention, for nothing anyone says is irrelevant, just listen and find some gold therein.
Listening is a skill, and it is something everyone should covet. Listening to “rants” or “foolish” words from “dump” persons or listening to “brilliant” talk from “smart” persons all sum up to make a listening person a leader or one in the making.
People who listen a lot are full of wisdom and always have intelligent inputs when occasion demands their contribution; they are always on top of their game and on top in life too.
"Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections but instantly set about remedying them -- every day begin the task anew." ~ Saint Francis de Sales
Do not for any reasons condemn yourself; that you made it thus far is a very good sign you will surely get to your desired end.
Be proud of your accomplishment at the moment, and be patient in seeing other accomplishment materialize; it may take longer than expected but just keep working.
“Deeds not Words” ~ Bernord Hor
While it is one thing to say or believe you can be successful in life, it is another thing to consistently do something or engage in something that is not only worthwhile, but engaging in that which will trigger that needed force that will cause the light of success to beam towards your direction; one single beam at a time till several beams converge to form a single brilliant and strong blistering light of success.
Bottom-line: do something (no matter how small) about your declaration or muttering of success words, don’t just say or mutter success words!
“The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained in sudden flight but, they while their companions slept, they were toiling upwards in the night.” ~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
To tell the truth, every human on the face of the earth has a challenge; be it the wealthy or the poor. Just because you are going through some challenges does not mean your life is in the balance. If you think your life is in the balance because of a challenge, you are starting to fail.
Victory only comes to you when you keep your head up by constantly reminding and telling yourself; it’s going to be fine, and at the same time working deliberately with all seriousness to get to that desired end.
That is the way to go, else you will start losing the victory. No-one deliberately wants to fail in life, but when one allows themselves to be soaked up by a challenge or challenges, it is an indirect call for failure.
In your quest for success, fight that fight of survival till what you desire materialize.
Do not be weary, fearful or surrender in your fight for success; sooner or later things will surely get better.
Do you believe this? I guess you should. Believing this is definitely the starting point for success.
Never ever lose hope in your quest for success; the moment you lose hope, your dreams will fade like a vapor, this will in turn release the thoughts of suicide or hopelessness that will ultimately take you to a point of no return.
You are not alone. Hold perseverance by the wrist, go through rough times with it; it will help ensure your head is up, and will keep your temperature cool. Remember, it can only get better!
