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There lives a monster odor that is no respecter of persons but it is accommondated by many unknowingly and knowingly. Its source is from a very well-known place. It registers its presence stealthily and it transcends age, race, gender, ethnicity, country, etc. That place is the feet!

If you put on socks for more than two consecutive days you are guilty of this monster odor; If you do not air your shoes, you are also guilty of this monster odor; if you put on one pair of shoe without socks consecutively, you are guilty; if you take your bath without cleaning between your toes before you put on your shoes, you are also guilty. No one wants to be accused of this monster odor and at the same time no one wants to be the one terrorized by this monster odor.

First off, you do not want to be the one accused of spreading bad aroma and so you want to put on fresh socks every two consecutive days; it may not sound realistic but it is realistic if you have lots of socks and courtesy for others; I guess socks and respect comes real cheap.

Get rid of this monster odor by interchanging the shoes you put on daily and airing same, cleaning your toes after taking your bath before you put on your shoes and finally change your socks every two consecutive days. This should chase this monster odor far from your feet much more than any perfume can do. Correct?

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Simple courtesy for responsible living - 55

Bad manners equals poor character ~ Ochuko

It is understandable that some children were brought up by foster parents and were not properly taken care of in terms of grooming, which cannot be held against them. Now adults they do not know when they are a source of odor wherever they set foot. The onus rest on society to help these to become the adult they are supposed to be. Not helping them is regarded as bad character.

Generally, grooming (shaving of underarm/other places necessary, and use of deodorant and/or use mild perfume/cologne and dressing clean) responsibility lies on adults themselves, so they won't constantly irritate people. Now, using strong cologne or perfume is annoying but eating a “delicious” meal in the office and irritating people by the odor/smell of the food is worse of and considered bad manners, but there is nothing as bad as constantly being a source of body odor to everyone.

When you do not take care of your body issues, it is regarded as bad manners and bad manners equal poor character. Please take care of your pretty self by constantly doing the right thing to keep you fresh and clean, and out of the "dirty eyes" of society. Correct?

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Simple courtesy for responsible living - 54

Anytime you are using your phone in public and by chance you see people steering at you with “dirty look” on their faces; it is probably because you are doing something very annoying like screaming or yelling while talking on phone or you are gesticulating too much while on phone. You may want to check that you are not doing something irritating. Courtesy demands that you respect the public as long as you are in their midst.

Bottom-line: When you see “dirty look” on the faces of people while you converse on phone, you should check yourself and see that you are not falling short of courtesy or manners.

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When you are dining with others, do not stretch your arms across meals to reach for a bowl, spoon or to scoop food from a dish. Courtesy demands that you ask someone closest to you to get that thing you are seeking to you.

In a situation where the bowl is about 1 meter or 3 feet away from you, you should ask the person nearby or closest to you to pass the message to the next person and so on and forth, till it gets to you. Better still, if there is a waiter around, you should lift your hands and try to get their attention for help.

Never find yourself overreaching for something when you are at table with others. Correct?

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Conflict resolution...the real deal!

When one's focus is on the right thing, issues will be resolved quickly. The steps below will help in the time of misunderstanding or conflict resolution

1.) Focus on one concern at a time instead of many.

2.) Focus on the difficulty/problem instead of the person.

3.) Focus on the word "we" instead of "you".

4.) Focus on performance/conduct instead of character.

5.) Focus on specifics instead of pointless generalized words.

6.) Focus on facts instead of intention/motive.

7.) Foucs on understanding the other person instead of seeking to win an argument

Conflict resolution...the real deal!

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Tips for conflict resolution.

I have learnt/learned overtime, and in some instances the hard way, to consider certain things before plugging myself into resolving a conflict, and it has help me in my relationship with people. I do believe it can help you too.

Consider the below before you confront or resolve that conflict;

1.) Can i overlook it? If no, how best can i handle it without escalating it?

2.) What was my contribution to birthing the conflict?

3.) Is this the right time to resolve it?

4.) Am i trying to retaliate or restore peace?

5.) Can i speak the truth without venting my anger?

6.) What will be my strategy or approach in resolving the conflict.

Tips for conflict resolution.

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Five bitter-truth to know before engaging yourself

It is just as important to BECOME the right person as it is to FIND the right person ~ Unknown author

Five things to know before engaging in marital affairs.

1.) It is not about you; it is about two.

2.) Selfishness is inherent in us; be ready to be selfless.

3.) Pain and hurt abounds but be ready to resolve issues & be happy again.

4.) Rely on the inner man to strengthen you as you experience a rough ride.

5.) Purpose to enjoy life regardless.

Five things to know before engaging yourself.

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