Be mindful of the bits of life that makes you, YOU!

Drops of water from the tap fill the bowl. Yes? No? Whatever you indulge in every tick-tock of the clock, count towards the big picture of your life. What is running from the tap? What is filling the bowl? You would probably say, water, gas/fuel runs from the tap, and whatever runs from it, fills the bowl. Really? You may not be able to control what runs from the tap but you sure can control what fills the bowl. Today is a day. Tomorrow, it will be two days, the day after, it will be three days…tick tock, tick tock, and time is running. What is your plan for your life? In the near future, what do see you becoming and fulfilling as a grown adult? You should know that, whatever you do today affects what you would finally become. The drops of water from the tap is what happens in life around you and the water that flows to the bowl, is what you indulge in daily that makes you, YOU. Guide your heart, mind and ways so jealously, so every dick and harry will not drop just about anything in you.  You can sure control what you indulge in and what you should not. You want to party day after day? You should indulge in things that will contribute finally to who you want to become in life. Do not say to yourself, I will indulge myself once a week and that’s it. This may become the building block of who you might become overtime. Be mindful of the bits of life that makes you, YOU!

Everything you do each day, count towards who you become!





Get your emotions out of the way!

Facts get blurry with emotions. Lousy decisions and bad choices takes center stage in one’s life with emotions in play. Life is too precious to allow emotions get in the way. Each day we interact with people we meet and we are to make decisions from conversations that ensue. Each day we make choices of what cloths to buy, what friends to keep, what friends to strike out from circles of friends, what business to startup, what school to attend and so on and forth. You do not want to mess up with your life. Emotions are to be controlled at all times so they do not rub us of a good life. If not controlled, it causes you to make major and minor mistakes. Example: A young man/lady seeks someone to whom he may be engaged to; look at the facts when making a decision. Does she/he have the potential to be successful? His she/he a mediocre? Who are her/his friends? How does he treat family? What are is short and long term goal? Emotional decision looks at the colour of his eyes, white teeth and velvety skin. Engagement is a major decision in your life because the person you marry would have an influence in your life forever. Sometimes we get into quarrels with colleagues and friends, that should not mean you cannot straighten things out. Emotions tells you to not reconcile but your head says you have to. Do not allow your emotions control you. Do not make major and minor decisions hurriedly. Emotions are a vital part of our lives but we must draw the line between our heads and our hearts. You should know when either of both is involved. Your parents warn you to desist from moving with the wrong crowd, you shun them because you are insecure without your friends. Please, get your thoughts straight. Count the cost of a bad decision against the odds of a good decision made with eyes and brain intact. Life is too beautiful and sensitive to play Ping-Pong with it. Get your emotions out of the way!

Use your head and not your emotions for decisions.

Don't be shy to ask for help!

Everyone at one point in their lives sorted assistance or help from friends, parents, siblings, professors, advisor, pastors and mentors to get to where they are today. Nobody ever got to whatever position they are today without help from someone. No single human is a know-it-all individual. Everyone seek knowledge, that’s why we read books and go to school and the professors give that knowledge, also writers. Life is about precepts. And these precepts are built and attained one step at a time. Do not be shy to ask for help when you are stuck financially or when you are on that road and think you are lost on the next step to take. You may even be a new employee and do not know how to use the computer or you may know how to use the computer but don’t know how to use all the features in excel. Seek help. When you seek help; be truthful and at the same time respectful of the person you are seeking help from. Sometimes you get a “NO” or “I am sorry I cannot assist at this time” for an answer. Do not be fretful of the word “No”. “No” do not mean; you should give up now. “No” means, go to the next in line. Life is about humans having the back of another. Life is not a lonesome place. If someone says “No” that’s not the time to think of committing suicide or indulging in drinking to stupor. When you drink to calm your anger or fears, the same thing you covered with a drink will rise up and hunt you when your eyes are clear of drunkenness.  If someone says “No, I cannot assist you at this time” it means you can try again another time. Be strong and help yourself get ahead in life by asking for help. Scream for help, forget about what people think. Do not be shy to ask for help otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure.

Ask for help!

Dialogue is better than silent treatment!

Yesterday’s blog was about each of us contributing our quota to a better environment. Today is about silent treatment. Silent treatment is commonly practiced among friends, married couples, family members and employees’. Silent treatment is a revenge tactics exhibited by someone to another as a result of hurt done them. They ignore people like they don’t exist and this habit finally becomes part of their character. It is very easy to practice silent treatment and become a pro at it. The popular legend states, “Practice makes perfect”. The more you ignore persons, who hurt you, the better you become in the act. Silent treatment should not be practiced by anyone. If someone hurt you, you should tell them. If your wife hurt you, you should call her in love and let her know, so she can have the opportunity to say, “Sorry”. Sometimes people go through a lot in their life and want to be left alone but it does not help them; if you tried to help such persons and they ignore you, try again because they really need someone to talk to. Also, people do not know they have hurt someone because they grew up in an environment where saying certain words don’t matter. How could a man say he loves his wife and he has not been talking with her for two months and still counting? Or a woman saying she loves her husband and she is not ready to dialogue for a better family. How can a family member say, they love each other and silent treatment is in practice in the house. Sometimes, friends also practice this. Dialogue is far better than silent treatment. Learn to tell someone they just hurt you, given them the chance to apologize. Also, make understanding, your friend, by choosing the right words to say and saying it at the right time too. Learn to dialogue, because it is better than silent treatment.

Dialogue is key to getting along!

Contribute your quota to a better environment!

The environment we live in today is worse off than what it was some years back. Everyone is pointing at someone else but them, for all the wrong in our immediate environment. If anything is amiss with the environment we should be pointing at us. There is something everyone can do to make the environment better than it is. The people we voted for can only do much. The responsibility of making our environment a better place is up to us. Clearing/mowing the grass/lawn around your house is your responsibility.  Instilling discipline in your kids is your responsibility; do not leave this to the child’s principal, the principal can only do much. Kids are the future, teach them right, they represent you. Press their rumpled cloths before they put it on. Teach your kids to pick up litter on their path in classroom. You should pick up litter on the office floor as you walk by, do not call the cleaner from the third floor to pick up a piece of paper on your path, on the ground floor. Make your work table clog free/neat. Clean up your room and entire house so it would be free of bugs. Cleaning your house and making it habitable is a wise choice only you can make, and it can save your entire family from sickness/disease. Wash your hair. Take your bath, do not wake up and spray perfume to cover up smell, it may make it worse and worse still for other people to breath. It is your responsibility to make the environment what it is meant to be, not the government. If everyone can do a little, it would go a long way. Contribute your own quota to a better environment today!

Contribute your quota to a better environment!

Every dream is a soon-to-be reality!

Do not underestimate the power of thoughts. Possibilities are endless. Sit down. Dream dreams! Think possibilities! There is a chance for every dream to come true, if you can only think it. Every dream has the potential of coming alive. As regards progress, where are you now? Your reality is only a dream away. Some say dreams are illusions. No, they are not. Dreams can come true if you only believe and act on it. Dreaming does not mean, sleeping and having nightmares at night. Dream in this context means, sitting down and thinking of several ways you can move from point A to point B. Everyone on the face of the earth can achieve anything they set their hearts to. Open the door of your heart and keep it open. If you desire to be at a certain position in your progress in life, you should set your heart and will towards achieving that which you have dreamt. To every dream, there is a possibility of it happening!

What drives your desire to succeed?

Some individuals’ desire for success is not driven by their past achievements. Their desire to succeed is driven by the car a friend just bought, a friend who just got married, a neighbor who just built a house, a friend who just rented an apartment or flat, a preacher who just bought a jet for personal use, a colleague who just got promoted and so on and forth. All these are genuine successes of people around you and they must be praised for their determination to have gotten thus far. You should be happy for these individuals. Being happy does not mean to say you should be envious or jealous of their successes at the same time. If you are jealous of these individuals, there is the probability you would do the wrong things to achieve whatever you are clamoring to have. The desire to be the best of you each preceding year should be your goal. Your competition is with your past achievement. You should weigh your past achievement with your present and if you are not satisfied with were you are, you may need to have a better plan to achieve greater results. What drives your desire to succeed? Is it to outdo your friend, neighbor, sister, brother, nephew niece, classmates or boss? Let none of these drive your desire to succeed. Your desire to succeed should only be a drive from the dissatisfaction with your present state or past. Never be envious of anyone, your purpose for being is different. You cannot monitor every move they make to measure your success. Ask yourself what drives my desire to succeed? And then, look back at your past achievement and outdo it!

BE TRULY HAPPY FOR PEOPLE'S ACHIEVEMENT